Friday, May 30, 2014

Flash Back Friday: India.Arie - Little Things

This is one of the songs I play, by the very talented Miss India.Arie, in the morning to remind me to cherish and find joy in the little things during my day. Hopefully it reminds you take the time out to smell the roses and embrace the tiny things that are the big things.
 Press play and enjoy. :)
 




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Friday, May 23, 2014

Be Kind...To Yourself

 
 
 
 
 
I recently was on Google just a Googlin' away, looking up childbirthin' stuff and such, and I came across this awesome blog post about positive affirmations and a line from that post really stuck out to me. That line was "be kind to yourself". It seemed to shout out at me from the page and really made me think. How often do I run around my day, especially now that I'm pregnant and I don't have as much energy as I used to, and criticize myself for all that I don't get done?
 
How often do I feel stressed because there seems like there is so much to do and so little time? How often do I feel guilty because there seems to be a loose end left untied somewhere? How many times have I worried that I haven't given the twins or my love exactly what they needed, or spent enough time with them or my love? So many times I tell ya, so many times.
 
After 'be kind to yourself' became a repeated mantra chanted in my head, I realized I didn't even know what the word 'kind' even meant. I had to look it up on the Google.

2kind

adjective
: having or showing a gentle nature and a desire to help others : wanting and liking to do good things and to bring happiness to others
 
Woah! To be kind to myself means I want and like doing good things for myself and bringing  myself happiness? Why does this seem like such a hard pill to swallow? Why does the thought of this immediately make me feel uncomfortable? As if in me being kind to myself would equal that I am being selfish?
 
As human beings we are not allowed to be kind to ourselves, it is something that is completely unaccepted and untaught. We are taught that it is acceptable to put others above ourselves till we suffocate our own wants and needs. Being a martyr is something that is looked upon highly and glorified, but we are missing a very important point in the midst of the self sacrifice.
 
 We cannot be kind to others unless we are first kind to ourselves.
 
 I want to be the absolute best me that I can be for my family and friends. I want to treat everyone close to me with love, kindness, compassion, patience, and respect, and to effectively do this I must first learn to be patient with myself , respectful of my desires and needs, compassionate of my mistakes and emotions, and above all else be very kind to myself; kindness I believe embodies all of these traits.
 
Today is the first day of me actively choosing to be kind to myself. To be aware of the thoughts that I allow myself to think and the expectations that I place upon myself. I am excited to see where this journey takes me.
 
 
 
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Thursday, May 15, 2014

Don't Call it a Comeback


So I have coined a new term to describe myself called 'slazy'. It means I have been sleepy and lazy at least 100% of the time. At 23 weeks, this pregnancy has been kickin' my butt from the roota to the toota. I have been trying to maintain some energy and manage my inner crazy preggo.

With the twins' pregnancy I feel like I was remarkably emotionally stable and just overall chill, until after the boys were born of course lol. With this pregnancy I feel like I have been extremely emotional and sensitive and it has been driving me craaaazzzyyy. I just want my emotions back!!!

On a really positive note, I feel like I have finally come to peace with the fact that my body is completely capable of  growing and birthing a baby vaginally, since the twins were brought into this world through good old fashioned c section. I have been naturally apprehensive of labor and delivery and VBACing because I have no idea what to expect. All I really know is that I DO NOT want a repeat C section, no way, no how. C Sections are not my cup of tea.

I have been trying to read a lot of positive VBAC stories and affirmations and I must say that they, coupled with prayer, have really been working in helping to put my mind at ease about the birthing process. I want to have the most positive and uplifting pregnancy, labor and delivery possible.

22 weeks pregnant and the poster child of slazy

I'm really loving the Ina May Gaskin affirmations that I found on Pinterest, I'm copying them here if there are any preggos out there who need a little bit of positivity and light during this baby growing time.

 

Ina May’s Guide to Childbirth: Updated With New Material
My body is beautifully and wonderfully made.
 
My heart and body know exactly what my baby needs, my mind is learning.
 
I am a powerful, loving and creative being.
 
My pelvis releases and opens as have those of countless women before me.
 
Good strong contractions help my baby come into the world.
 
My body contains all the knowledge necessary to safely birth my baby.
 
My baby knows how and when to be born.
 
Birth is a safe and sacred experience.
 
My baby will be born healthy and at the perfect time.
 
I am a strong and capable woman.
 
I am a powerful, loving and creative being.
 
I am willing to meet myself with kindness in all that may arise.
 
I accept this labor as my labor and believe it is the right one for me and for my baby.
 
I feel the love of those around me.
 
I proudly step forward and take my place within the collective of motherhood.
 

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